Tony A. Smith

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“Step in as close as you can so that I can see you!  Now you know I can’t really see you with that mask on.  You’re going to have to take your mask off so that I can see who you really, really are.”

We all want others to love us and accept us for who we truly are yet we don’t live a life of transparency.  The person we are on the inside is not the image we portray on the outside.  Aren’t we all guilty of wearing masks to protect our true identity; to protect who we really are? We are afraid of being emotionally uncovered, and so we hide and crouch behind our masks that cover our deepest hurts and darkest thoughts that go rambling through our minds.

I suppose the mask has its proper place in our lives for a time.  But I believe also that great day we learn to live without a mask is the day we really live for the very first time.  It is in the removing of our masks that we find freedom.  We become free and are liberated by learning to love and accept ourselves by honoring who we truly are.

Sometimes people act the way they do because of what is anchored deep behind the mask.  We tend to look at the resulting action rather than what or who created the action.

I have received mercy, forgiveness, and kindness along my own life journey, none of which I deserved – but I am so very thankful.  Showing love and compassion beyond the borders of the mask is how we can really make a difference in this world, for what we often see on the outside is only a reflection of the mask.

May we all learn in time to remove our masks and to be thankful for others who have extended to us forgiveness, mercy, kindness, and compassion.

This Thanksgiving may we all be able to work on removing our  own masks, to truly see those who wear them, and of course to be thankful for others who have helped us to become better along the way.



  1. Great post. I think removing the mask is part of the process of sanctification, at least it has been for me. The removal of shame for who I really am did not come completely with the moment I received grace and forgiveness for my sin. Unlearning the patterns of shame-based living has been something of a work for me and I am not through with it yet.

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  2. joliesattic says:

    There is much truth to that. I think we hide the side of us that is riddled with guilt for the things we think and feel that are beyond our control. We feel errant in so many ways and hide that part of us that can be cruel and unforgiving. It’s the part of us that would benefit no one if we showed it. I have a daughter who will speak without thinking and sometimes what is in her head should have stayed there. Some of us call it being quick witted, others might see it as insensitive or crass. She wishes she could be more bridled.
    I think perhaps it’s just part of the human dilemma in all of us.

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  3. jjspina says:

    Well said, Tony. We do have a tendency to hide behind a facade. Maybe we are afraid to show our true selves for fear of rejection. HappyThanksgiving! Blessings 🦃🤗

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  4. tabitha59reachingout says:

    Well said, Tony. Sometimes I wonder if it’s because it is becoming more and more rare that people are safe, loving and accepting of our ‘bad parts’ no matter what. Either way, I think it takes a lot of courage to let others see the ‘real you’. ….. Just a few thoughts off the top of my head. Nice to hear from you again. 🙂

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  5. Wonderful post! Mask gone! That’s why I started blogging and use my name and photo just so I own all my stuff. 😀 Thanks for your visit! 🙂

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