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Family Time


Have you ever heard people say that the family who sits down to eat a meal together around the table sticks together through thick and thin?  Too often we are so busy being busy with work, running to soccer practice, or dance, or baseball, or football, or another meeting, or shopping, or playing on the computer, or talking on the phone, or texting,  or combing our hair, putting on makeup, or whatever, that we don’t take the time to sit down at the dinner table and reconnect with each other.  There are many who never sit down together and break bread due to overwhelming schedules of life.  It’s a pretty sad shame too, since there are many benefits to eating together as a family if you can fit it in your schedule.  Now I’m not talking about sitting around the television in the living room with a television tray full of food.  I am talking about honest to goodness “Pass me the potatoes please, and how was your day”? conversation.

There are so many benefits that result from being able to eat together and look one another in the eye and actually hear each other breathe.  There was a study done by John Sandberg and Sandra Hofferth entitled “How American Children Spend Their Time,” which was published in the Journal of Marriage and Family which found that having family time meals on a regular basis results in fewer behavioral problems.  According to an article published in 2006 in “New Directions for Child and Adolescent Development”, family time dinners are even more important from a vocabulary standpoint than being read to.  It was found that young children learn 1000 rare words at the dinner table in comparison to only about 145 words from parents who read books out loud to them.  It only makes sense that there is more focus at the dinner table and obviously more comprehension.  No television, no phones, no computers, no noisy noise for a few minutes…. Sounds too good to be true……..but something you might get used to… right?

Being able to sit down and eat together as a family gives you a sense of belonging, and reminds you that you don’t have to face this old world on your own. It’s important especially for young children to give them that sense of security as often as we can.  So if you want to do something good for your family that will last and last, encourage everyone to try to sit down at the table at least for a few minutes, at least once or twice a week if you don’t already. It will make all the difference in the world. Children will remember those times for years to come, as they try to instill the same values, and quiet times in their own families that they were taught and can recall made a difference in their own lives and upbringing. Bind the family together and wrap them with the minutes of together moments forever. “So that’s what breathing sounds like?” Honest to goodness!




  1. jjspina says:

    Is there any other way to eat? I grew up in the generation with only one TV and we ate in the kitchen first and all together before the TV was turned on. It was the time when we could discuss our day. My dad was not a talker when he ate but my mother was. 😄

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    • My Dad was the same as yours…… Yes we had one television too…. hardly ever worked … it rolled and rolled unless you slapped the side of it real hard to keep it from rolling on the screen… So much is missed in life if we let other things get in the way of it…

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  2. milliethom says:

    Well expressed, Tony. I’ve never considered eating any other way than at the dining table and feel saddened that TV viewing, or snacks snatched at odd times, seems to be the norm in households both in the U.K. and the U.S. I agree with everything you say regarding the value of sharing meals together but many younger people perhaps see the practice/custom as old fashioned or unnecessary. Modern life is such a rush. Interesting points about the benefits of eating together on langauge development, too. 😃

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  3. joliesattic says:

    So true. We have at least one meal at the table. Even if I’m alone, I have to have my breakfast with no distractions at the table. No phone. My kids are all grown and we made sure we had at least one meal together. Not an easy thing to do,

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