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Christmas is a time for being with family, good food, giving gifts, and celebrating the birth of Christ. Let us not forget though, that some of the most meaningful gifts we can give come from our heart and need not cost anything at all. Here are a few of those …..
– Shovel snow off your neighbors sidewalk and driveway.
– Rather than give advice to someone, ask for some.
– Open the door for someone else.
– Read stories in your local library to children or seniors who can’t.
– Help in your local nursing home by just visiting and talking with some of the residents there who never have anyone to come and visit them.
– Let someone go on ahead of you while in line at the store.
– Give away some of your secret and most favorite recipes to your friends.
– Visit the Humane Society and adopt an animal if you can.
– Smile whenever you can at others. You never know how much you may change their day or outlook on life.
– Save up some fabric scraps and give them away to someone who quilts.
– Write a letter to the editor agreeing with his views on something.
– Volunteer to be a bell-ringer at your local Salvation Army.
– Write a letter to your friends you haven’t talked to in a long time and see how much it means to them.
– Say please and thank you whenever you are given the opportunity.
– Pick up after yourself around the house, and give others who usually do it a break.
– Say you’re sorry when you need to and forgive others when they do the same and are sincere.
– Call your family members on the phone just to tell them you love them.
– Tell someone you are proud of them.
– Be a mentor to a young person and show them the way to go.
– Take a cancer or dialysis patient to their treatments if they have no one who can help out.
– Volunteer to babysit for parents with a newborn baby to give them a night out once in a while.
– Pray for those who need prayer.
– Bake a cake or pie and take it to the new neighbors on the block.
– Don’t hold a grudge more than 12 hours and try to reconcile differences before the sun goes down each day. It will give both of you a good nights rest!
– Give yourself a gift by not worrying. It ends up getting you nowhere in the long run. Most of the stuff we worry about never comes to pass anyway. Worrying is just a changeless proposition.
This is your Dad
Hello – Is anyone home?
I guess you’re not there
I guess I’ll just have to leave you a message on your answering machine
I’ve been havin kind of rough day today here son
I’m kind of down today
I guess that’s how it is when you have cancer
And you only have a few months to live
You have your good days and your bad days
I just wanted to call to say I miss you son and that I love you
I sure would like to talk to you
It’s been a while since I talked to you
I just want to hear your voice son
Call me when you get a chance
Call me, okay
I love you
Have you ever received one of those letters that someone sends out from time to time to everyone on their list to catch them up on their life? Sometimes they can be a bit over done and downright annoying, and then sometimes they really make you stop and think about your own life. Take a look at this fictional account of one of those types of letters here.
“Dear Family and Friends,
Our only daughter, Sarah Marie, graduated with her Associate in Science on May 6, 2006. Please indulge us, at least a little, as we are so proud of the young Christian woman Sarah has become, and of achieving the goal that she set before herself in the face of extreme adversity.
As most of you are aware, on the day of Sarah’s 16th birthday her Aunt Kim was diagnosed with metastatic lung cancer which had spread at that time to her liver. She in fact was given only a few months to live. Kim prayed that GOD would give her strength, and eventually survived 5 1/2 long and hard-fought years on this earth. Sarah and Kim were very close as she was like the daughter that Kim never had.
It was during this time that Sarah would start her college career. Sarah was strong, determined, faithful, and never once lost sight of her goal. As life would have it, with Kim suffering through endless chemotherapy, radiation treatments, hair loss, and ongoing sickness, life dealt us yet another blow. Grandpa Buckley was unexpectedly rushed to the hospital and was diagnosed with an aortic aneurysm.
Grandpa spent approximately 3 1/2 months in hospital while being placed in and out of the intensive care unit all along the way. Sarah would try to come after her classes just to sit and spend time with her grandpa even though most of the time he could not respond since he was sedated and was on a ventilator with a hole cut into his neck. The LORD did finally welcome grandpa home on June 21, 2003.
Sarah and Grandpa Buckley had a very special bond that has left a huge hole in her heart, as well as the rest of the family. She knew that her grandpa would have wanted her to continue on with school. Sarah wanted to be employable once she graduated from high school, so she initially chose to pursue her esthetician license. She completed that goal on January 26, 2004 and is now a licensed esthetician in the state of North Carolina.
She was saddened with endless pain and suffering. She was confused yet undaunted at the young age of 20. Sarah continued to pursue her Associate degree, while working 30 plus hours per week. It was during the latter part of her fall semester and during the Christmas holiday that Aunt Kim would eventually fight her last battle with the cancer beast. Our family spent Christmas day in the hospital with Kim. It was her last Christmas with us. She struggled for every breath as they kept trying to suck the junk out of her lungs with that awful sucking machine they had. They called them breathing treatments. I couldn’t stand the sound of that thing, and then to look down at my sister with her bald head and barely any meat on her bones , and dark circles under her eyes and sunken cheeks was too much for all of us.
On December 27, 2005, Kim went home to be with the LORD. We know that Aunt Kim and Grandpa Buckley were up in heaven cheering loudly, just like we were, the day Sarah Marie walked on stage to receive her diploma on May 6, 2006. We don’t understand why GOD has chosen to let our family endure so much pain and grief, other than to make us realize it is not about us – you see IT IS ABOUT HIM!!!!
Perhaps we were meant to be a witness to all of you to live your life like it is your last day. We have come to realize through all of this that it doesn’t really matter what your bank account looks like, or the material items you have, or the social status you might have acquired along life’s journey here on earth. We need to teach our children and remind ourselves that GOD has a plan for each of our lives, and our final reward will be in heaven. It is there that we will give GOD all the glory!
You can see that Sarah has lived up to her nickname “little bulldog”. She never gave up and she never gave in. We hope that by sharing our story of our “little bulldog” that this will be an inspiration to anyone who may find themselves having to endure similar circumstances. May GOD bless you all……
Love and Hugs,
Carla and Jim”
In your death you gained the final victory. You loved the LORD with all your heart, all your soul, and all your mind. You loved animals of all kinds and especially horses. It seems like you had a very special connection with them through your loving sensitivity. You loved your family and friends, and spending time with them. You were intelligent, yet not pretentious. You were a very strong-willed person – stubborn one might say, and it was perhaps your being so stubborn that kept you going during the long years you fought against the animal called cancer.
You were compassionate and loved doing things for others. It is in this, that you seemed to find the most joy. You stared death in the eye and did not blink. You were strong and courageous until the very end. Through all the many chemo treatments, radiation, and experimental drugs, you remained faithful. Your ultimate concern was more for the welfare of others.
Yes, in your death you did get the final victory for your spirit has left your tent on earth and you are now dancing in heaven with the LORD where you will forever dance.
I look around and I can still see you here. I can see you through the lives you have touched and changed forever. It might have been a kind word of encouragement, or something you did or said. All are memories that no one can take away. One day soon too we will all be dancing with you.
I love you and I miss you, but I know you are surely in a much better place than here. So I have not said good-bye, but I do say I will see you again soon, and soon I will be dancing with you.
For all those who have lost someone to cancer