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Priceless Gifts

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Christmas is a time for being with family, good food, giving gifts, and celebrating the birth of Christ. Let us not forget though, that some of the most meaningful gifts we can give come from our heart and need not cost anything at all.  Here are a few of those …..

– Shovel snow off your neighbors sidewalk and driveway.

– Rather than give advice to someone, ask for some.

– Open the door for someone else.

– Read stories in your local library to children or seniors who can’t.

– Help in your local nursing home by  just visiting and talking with some of the residents there who never have anyone to come and visit them.

– Let someone go on ahead of you while in line at the store.

– Give away some of your secret and most favorite recipes to your friends.

– Visit the Humane Society and adopt an animal if you can.

– Smile whenever you can at others. You never know how much you may change their day or outlook on life.

– Save up some fabric scraps and give them away to someone who quilts.

– Write a letter to the editor agreeing with his views on something.

– Volunteer to be a bell-ringer at your local Salvation Army.

– Write a letter to your friends you haven’t talked to in a long time and see how much it means to them.

– Say please and thank you whenever you are given the opportunity.

– Pick up after yourself around the house, and give others who usually do it a break.

– Say you’re sorry when you need to and forgive others when they do the same and are sincere.

– Call your family members on the phone just to tell them you love them.

– Tell someone you are proud of them.

– Be a mentor to a young person and show them the way to go.

– Take a cancer or dialysis patient to their treatments if they have no one who can help out.

– Volunteer to babysit for parents with a newborn baby to give them a night out once in a while.

– Pray for those who need prayer.

– Bake a cake or pie and take it to the new neighbors on the block.

– Don’t hold a grudge more than 12 hours and try to reconcile differences before the sun goes down each day.  It will give both of you a good nights rest!

– Give yourself a gift by not worrying.  It ends up getting you nowhere in the long run.  Most of the stuff we worry about never comes to pass anyway. Worrying is just a changeless proposition.

Waters of Time

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I call, and call his name but he’s not there

Sitting snug in his bright yellow chair

I lay on the cold sheets of my bed and just stare

Tears puddle run down my face

And my dad is just not in his place

Hoping for more time

Why I ask you, is life so unkind

Where is that soft, gentle voice

Why didn’t I get a choice

To keep him here

To keep him near

Footprints

Washed by the waters of time

Nothing can wash him from this heart of mine

I remember his whispering words that day

As he spoke from a smelly death bed, so they say

Cancer broke him down

As it does in many a town

“I’m proud of you my daughter

For the woman you’ve become

You haven’t climbed life’s ladder just to climb

Rung after Rung

Your purpose was “HIS” purpose

And for that, I’m mighty proud

Proud to call you my daughter

Because you’ve kept him number one”

“Help as many people as you can along the way

And make life a joy for all who stay

Those were his words, not mine”

I still think of him all the time

Footprints

Washed by the waters of time

Nothing will ever wash him from this heart of mine

 

My Letters From the Heart

You’re Not There

You're Not There

 

Hello

Hello Son

This is your Dad

Hello – Is anyone home?

Hello

I guess you’re not there

I guess I’ll just have to leave you a message on your answering machine

I’ve been havin kind of rough day today here son

I’m kind of down today 

I guess that’s how it is when you have cancer 

And you only have a few months to live

You have your good days and your bad days

I just wanted to call to say I miss you son and that I love you

I sure would like to talk to you

It’s been a while since I talked to you

I just want to hear your voice son

Call me when you get a chance

Call me, okay

I love you

Katie the Kid Changer

Katie the Kid Changer Barnes and Noble

Katie the Kid Changer – Barnes and Noble – Amazon

 

Katie the Kid Changer

Katie the Kid Changer – Kindle

I just wanted to let you know that my new children’s book, “Katie the Kid Changer” is now available as a paperback on Amazon and at Barnes and Noble. The Kindle version is available as a pre-order now and will be released this Friday, March 6th.

Katie is the story of a young eight year old girl and how she would change the world we live in if she were in charge.  In Katie’s world;horses fly,  dogs and cats speak in a human voice,  every kid will be given one million dollars to spend however they choose,  people will never grow old or get sick, there will be no more wars,  kids will never be abused,  and parents will never get divorced.  Katie has her perfect world all figured out.  Our world is due for a big change with Katie in charge!

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Amazon Kindle

Amazon Paperback

YOU FOUGHT SO HARD

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Mare and new little one – Fenton, Michigan

 

In your death you gained the final victory.  You loved the LORD with all your heart, all your soul, and all your mind.  You loved animals of all kinds and especially horses.  It seems like you had a very special connection with them through your loving sensitivity.  You loved your family and friends, and spending time with them.  You were intelligent, yet not pretentious.  You were a very strong-willed person – stubborn one might say, and it was perhaps your being so stubborn that kept you going during the long years you fought against the animal called cancer.

You were compassionate and loved doing things for others.  It is in this, that you seemed to find the most joy.  You stared death in the eye and did not blink.  You were strong and courageous until the very end.  Through all the many chemo treatments, radiation, and experimental drugs, you remained faithful.  Your ultimate concern was more for the welfare of others.

Yes, in your death you did get the final victory for your spirit has left your tent on earth and you are now dancing in heaven with the LORD where you will forever dance.

I look around and I can still see you here.  I can see you through the lives you have touched and changed forever.  It might have been a kind word of encouragement, or something you did or said. All are memories that no one can take away.  One day soon too we will all be dancing with you.

I love you and I miss you, but I know you are surely in a much better place than here.  So I have not said good-bye, but I do say I will see you again soon, and soon I will be dancing with you.

For all those who have lost someone to cancer

STOP – FIND THE TIME

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Did you know the first stop sign ever installed was installed in Detroit, Michigan way back in 1915? The first stop sign was a two foot by two foot square piece of metal with black letters on a white background. During that same year the first electric traffic signal was installed not far from there in Cleveland, Ohio. I guess it just kind of makes sense that stop signs and stop lights should first be installed in a place where cars were first mass-produced. This is not a post about stop signs and the history of stop lights. All I really wanted to do in the beginning here was to get you to think about stopping and putting your life on pause every now and then for the things that are important to you.

Sometimes we get so busy in our life when we get to be adults that we can’t seem to find the time to keep up with our parents when we get older and start a family of our own. I was guilty of doing that as well. When I graduated from college I moved away to Michigan and lived a great distance from both my mom and dad. I tried to get back to visit them as often as possible over the holidays. I know I certainly didn’t call as often as I would have liked to. My dad passed away a few years ago after a short battle with lung cancer. I have regrets about not only spending more time with him when he was sick but prior to that as well. I wish I could have just a few more minutes with him to talk things over on the phone like we used to or just one more visit. I miss that gleam in his eye and him patting me on the back and asking me how life is going. I miss the sound of his voice and the calm and reassurance that life was going to be okay. I wish I would have traveled back more often to visit or picked up the phone to give him a call just to say hello or ask him how his day was going.

There is a hit song by Harry Chapin from 1974 that kind of hits on this point about life and how we all get so busy with life that we end up not remembering what is really important. Part of the lyrics of the song go as follows…

“I’ve long since retired, my son’s moved away

 I called him up just the other day

 I said, “I’d like to see you if you don’t mind”

 He said, “I’d love to Dad, if I could find the time”

 

 “You see my new job’s a hassle and the kids have the flu

 But it’s sure nice talking to you, Dad

 It’s been sure nice talking to you,”

 

And the cats in the cradle and the silver spoon

 Little boy blue and the man in the moon

 When you comin’ home, son, I don’t know when

 We’re gonna have a good time then.

 

Yes, I wish I would have come home more often and I wish I would have called more often. It’s too late now though. How about you? Don’t let it be too late. Stop – find the time – whenever you can. I promise you that you won’t ever regret it!