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Christmas Has Done Me Good


“What’s Christmastime…. but a time for paying bills without money, a time for finding yourself a year older, and not an hour richer, a time for balancing your books?…. If I could work my will, every idiot who goes about with “Merry Christmas:, on his lips should be boiled with his own pudding, and buried with a stake of holly through his heart.  He should!”  so says.. Scrooge in “A Christmas Carol” by Charles Dickens.

But shall we let the story stop there? I say not…. And with that,  this is how Scrooge’s nephew replies………. “There are many things from which I might have derived good, by which I have not profited.  I dare say, Christmas among the rest. But I am sure I have always thought of Christmastime…. as a good time, a kind, forgiving, charitable, pleasant time: the only time I know of, in the long calendar of the year, when men and women seem by one consent to open their shut up hearts freely…. And therefore, uncle, though it has never put a scrap of gold or silver in my pockets, I believe it has done me good, and will do me good.”


May you and your family have a very Merry Christmas!



M E R R Y C H R I S T M A S !

M E R R Y C H R I S T M A S!


M E R R Y C H R I S T M A S!!





My prayer for you is that Christmas has done you good, and will do you good this year. Someone was born over 2000 years ago that has done us all good and will continue to do us good…. And for that, I am so very, very thankful this Christmastime.  May you  and your family have a most blessed Christmas!

I know this is a tremendously hard time of year for some who have lost relatives or friends.  It can be a time of overpowering sadness and depression, as the thoughts of those who have gone on ahead of them in this life catapult in as a tidal wave of memories that wash their feet out from under them.  Try to remember those who are alone this Christmas season, not only from a physical perspective, but from an emotional perspective as well.  Show them you care, and let them know it is okay to talk about those who have gone on ahead, and how much their loved ones meant to them, and that they are stilled missed. A gentle pat on the hand, a soft hug, and just being a listener that really cares… goes a long,long way. It is something they need to do, for each time they talk of them, it brings a certain amount of healing. Help them heal..  Gone from our sight… but forever with us… especially at Christmastime.

Someone To Listen



Dinah Shore

Dinah Shore

” Trouble is a part of your life, and if you don’t share it, you don’t give the person who loves you enough chance to love you enough.” 

Dinah Shore

As men, sometimes we tend to keep things all bottled up inside of us and try to handle things on our own.  We try to be macho and see sharing as a weakness of sorts I suppose.  That is really not a healthy way to handle things and can create a lot of stress in our lives.  Some just don’t want to trouble others with their problems.

Women seem to be better than men about sharing the issues of their life with others.  I suppose it is just a part of the nature of women to talk things over with others sometimes in circuitous dialogue.  I do think there has to be some common ground in sharing in that we don’t want to weigh others down too much with what is troubling us, but it is always a good idea to share. 


A friend is someone you share parts of your life with – both the good times and the bad.

A friend is there for you no matter what you might be going through.

A friend is not there to criticize and condemn.

A friend is there to uplift and support.

A friend tells you the truth about something you might be doing wrong, but they do it in a way that does not defeat you when you are down.

A friend shares the laughter of life and the crying times as well.

A friend understands and cares.

A friend shares your hopes and does not shatter your dreams.

A friend is someone you learn the lessons of life with along the way.

Sometimes a friend talks things over with you.

Sometimes a friend just listens and understands.